Do You Want It Or Not?
Everyone that is currently breathing is seeking some type of attention. It doesn’t matter if the attention is for a relationship, business, friendship, work, or anything else; we all seek it. The question is, what type of attention do we really want???
For a couple of weeks there was a lot of talk about the Red Table Talk interview with the Curry ladies, especially Ayesha Curry. When everyone was talking about it, I hadn’t watched it yet. To be honest, I didn’t want to watch it. I don’t know why, but I stopped watching the Red Table Talk months ago. I primarily stopped watching it because I never had the time. The different opinions I saw on social media made me want to see what was going on. I wanted to hear what was said out of Ayesha Curry’s mouth. As we know folks on social media blow things out of proportion. Now let’s talk.
When I heard Ayesha say she doesn’t get the attention from men, one thing I heard her say is “maybe it’s my insecurities.” We all have some type of insecurities. It doesn’t matter if your man is doing everything or not, we as women want attention. I honestly didn’t see anything wrong with what she said. She was being honest. The problem with us is we don’t want to be honest. I know for myself I do get down at times because I may not receive attention from men. I remember years ago I would question if I was ugly because men weren’t trying to talk to me. Fast forward to the present, I finally realized it wasn’t that I didn’t get attention, the attention wasn’t coming from those that I believed should have been giving me attention. I don’t believe Ayesha was saying she wanted attention from every man that she encountered. Or she was looking for different men to be in her face. What I gathered was, Ayesha and Steph have been together since they were fifteen. He has always been in the spotlight. His father was a NBA player, he played basketball in high school, college and now the NBA. For at least the past five years (five years ago when I found out about Steph Curry) he has been talked about so much. Now Ayesha has been talked about, but rarely good things. She is a woman that speaks her mind and most people can’t handle it. She tweets what she doesn’t agree with and when she does, it’s like the world is coming to an end. She has her own thing going on as a mom and business woman, but if we’re real about it, no one is checking for her unless it has something to do with her husband. We have to get out of the mindset of her saying she’s not getting attention and try to understand what it’s like being married to a high profile NBA player.
I don’t believe I could handle being the wife of a celebrity. When we’re out and about everyone is looking past me in order to get to him. When we’re doing interviews all of the questions are thrown his way, while I’m sitting there being pretty. On the red carpet someone may mention my outfit, but it’s more about him. If persons would understand her lifestyle, maybe they would understand her comment. She is not calling for men to be in her DM or stalking her, but she is saying I’m allowing my insecurities to get the best of me.
I’m sure Steph is a good husband, but if you have never been the wife of a celebrity you wouldn’t understand what it’s like to be looked over. I don’t know her life, but I understand where she’s coming from. Sisterhood and unity is a big problem. Instead of women embracing her, they are attacking her. I expect men to make a joke about it because they will never be in her position. The problem is, there were more women throwing stones at her because of her honesty. Most of those women should have been looking in the mirror and recognizing her own insecurities. Women aren’t open to being honest in the public eye because too many other women are standing on the curb ready to attack her.
We all want attention, but the question is what kind of attention do we want?